A New Word: the standard blues

the standard blues– n. the dispiriting awareness that the twists and turns of your life feel new and profound, but are not unique – marked by the same coming-of-age struggles as millions of others, the same career setbacks, the same family strife, the same learning curve of parenting – which makes even your toughest challenges feel harmless and predictable, just another rename of the same old story.

In many ways I relate to the standard blues, though I don’t find them blue, but comforting. I was at dinner with our volleyball team and their parents. One of the other sets of parents had a 4-year old, who struggled to sit still and made dinner a challenge.

I remember those days. Remember feeling this is way harder for me and my wife than others. Especially when we had 2 little ones, and everyone else didn’t. However, over time I realized that it was new and hard to me, but it’s the same thing others went through. I still see that today with parents on that part of their journey.

I think a lot of things that feel tough in life, stress over finding a job, over your first review, over purchasing a house or car, are not that tough a challenge as they feel in that moment. They are just a new experience for you.

Even when my father passed, it was a shock, but I took comfort from others that had gone through the same thing, and from the knowledge that it’s a part of life.

Sometimes events are blue, and sometimes they are just new events. Fortunately most of the time they aren’t as unique or hard over time as they are in the moment.

From the Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows

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Vacation After Time Travel

It’s Wednesday. However, it feels like Tuesday. I left Denver about 25 hours ago to fly to LA and then Sydney. It feels like one day, but by crossing the international date line, I lost a day.

Don’t worry, I’ll get it back when I come home in a couple weeks.

Today starts vacation for my wife and I. We’ll enjoy some time in Sydney and Brisbane before I go to work next week.

No much blogging until then, apart from a new word Friday Winking smile

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Flying Halfway Around the World to Australia

I leave tonight for Australia. I was in London 3 days ago, so this will complete my halfway around the world trip when I time travel tomorrow and skip Tuesday. I’ll arrive in Sydney on Wednesday morning.

I am very lucky and I appreciate the chance to go back down under for work. I have a few seminars I’d delivering with fellow Redgaters, MVPs, industry experts, and Octopus Deploy engineers. I’ll be busy these days:

That’s next week, but I’m heading down early to recharge a bit. My wife is traveling with me to Sydney, where we’ll spend a few days later this week. She’s never been to that city, and I have literally been there for about 53 hours. We’re looking forward to some sightseeing, hiking around, and enjoying the Australian hospitality.

We’ll also take a few days in Brisbane before I go to work, checking out the Gold Coast and seeing a few friends. I’m looking forward to going back, as I enjoyed 4 days there before the pandemic.

This should be a good break from work before a busy week. I’ll be lightly blogging a few things, but mostly enjoying this break on the other side of the world.

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Seagull Management

Last year, I read Surrender, a book by U2 lead singer, Bono. Bill Gates listed this as one of the top books to read at one point, so I picked it up and dove in. I have enjoyed U2s music since I was in high school, and was interested to hear what made Bill Gates recommend his book. The book is partially a journey of U2, but mostly a look at how Bono’s view of the world and life has changed over time.

Bono grew beyond music in his life to become an activist and try to shape the world into a better place. Whether you agree with his efforts or focus or not, it’s admirable that he has tried to be more than a rich and famous singer. He’s had to build more skills around how to communicate with others, convince them to take a course of action, and educate himself about the world. In trying to build these skills, he’s founded or worked in organizations around his time with U2.

As a part of that, he had a great quote about leaders who are busy elsewhere but try to be involved in different parts of the business. He called this seagull management, and it was something he tried to avoid doing as he only comes into the office periodically.

Seagull management is where you fly into the office, shit over what everyone is doing, and fly off again. I wonder how many people in management do this but think that they are motivating, helping, or improving their workers’ efforts. Trying to bring their view, experience, knowledge, etc. to others, but invariably doing so in a way that doesn’t resonate with workers. Perhaps it’s not even helpful if management hasn’t taken the time to understand why people are working in a certain way.

I also see this with technical leads or senior engineers who come into a situation, often with strong opinions. They might express how they would have coded or architected something completely differently. Perhaps even informing existing staff that they are doing something wrong. Whether good intentioned or not, seagull management doesn’t help improve any situation.

We make bad decisions, we may build something without considering all the information, or perhaps the situation changes. We all find ourselves in situations where the technology doesn’t seem to be well matched to the environment. We might wish things were different. However, no matter how we arrive at our present situation, we are there. Extracting ourselves from any legacy environment takes time and has to be a journey that is undertaken with support from both technical staff and management.

Most of us want to build great systems that work well for our clients and are admired by others. We rarely find ourselves in a place where we have the time and resources to do that. We can refactor, evolve, and grow our systems to be better, but it does take time. We need a goal, direction, support, and understanding that change is a journey, not something that a manager can fix on their rare visits to our environment.

Steve Jones

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